Meth Addiction

Question: Partner with meth addiction - advice please?

(Posted by: Allison D on 2011-11-13 18:28:34)

My boyfriend has had a previous meth addiction. He went to rehab which did not work, he was asked to leave. The addiction is obviously back, well it never left but over the 6 months it has become extremely out of hand. I am not sure what the best approach is, last time he wanted to go, he didn’t want to do it anymore. Now it is completely taken over, he is using more and he is extremely dependent. I know this might be the worst thing to do for someone with an addiction; however I really don’t know what else to do. Meth users will know all the excuses and lies. I know he will keep doing it, I can’t just say stop. I can’t give him a game plan (smoke a little less each day). It takes over, he isn’t in control so it really difficult to know what to do. So my thought is (which is prob really bad) is to say – I am giving him 3 months (I wont see him or I wont call him) the option is there for him to call me if he needs to talk. I will tell him that he needs to go to narcotics anonymous at least 10 times. After the 3 months, if it is the same I really don’t know what else to do, I know its terrible but I don’t think I can be with him anymore. I have had discussions with him about it, this isn’t out of the blue but this approach is different (cut myself away – but still available if he needs to talk). Any advice? I know a lot of people will say just leave but please be realistic, this is a long term relationship – it is extremely hard for me to let go and I am not leaving him in the position he is in, it is too serious.

Posted by: Kel Zamora on 2011-11-16, 03:05:54

Go with him to narcotics anonymous meetings everyday. They say after 60 days of meetings every day, the urges of using drops drastically. I know this is true it worked for me. Go with him so that you know that he is going, you can listen to his shares, and I think this is the best kind of support you can give him, opposed to leaving him for 3 months. Help him find a sponsor, so he can complete the steps. If you dont have a lot of time to go with him to meetings, I know in my area there are lots of different times during the day at different locations that meetings are held, so its very flexible. Hopefully you have it like that too. Continuosly support him, introduce him to sober people if you can, show him life without drugs is great. Even if he does slip up, he should know that just because he loses his clean time, it doesnt mean he loses his way to recovery. Goodluck!

Posted by: Jack on 2011-11-13, 18:29:55

Make him go to rehab. if he refuses, leave him.

Posted by: Cally on 2011-11-13, 18:33:10

Dont put ur heart and time into something like that.. it could be a lifetime long problem :/